As we’ve said before, the “Relationship Advice for Men” series is not about all of the “touchy-feeley” crap you hear from (put your favorite radio or TV “doctor” here). I want to pass along practical advice about things that actually work to make your marriage or relationship stronger.
What follows is one of the most important (and least understood) thing that you can do to make your relationship strong and healthy.
Sharing Trivial Things
Remember when your relationship was young? Remember when you and your mate could just sit and chat for what seemed like hours?
I’d be willing to bet that you don’t do that anymore, and, that’s a huge mistake!
I know! I know! You’ve got a job! You’ve got kids! You gotta mow the lawn!
Mistake!
What you need to do is to find the time to sit and visit with your wife. You don’t have to discuss the meaning of life, or anything. Just tell her about your day and listen as she tells you about hers. Talk about anything that allows you to reconnect a bit after being apart for most of the day.
At my house, it’s when I first get home from work. We sit at the kitchen table, have a glass of wine, and just chat for a few minutes. And, it works wonders! It sort of sets the tone for our entire evening.
But, when you do it doesn’t matter. Perhaps for you it will be in the morning over coffee. Or, some other time… And, you don’t need a large amount of time. Just a few minutes. Or, a half hour. Whatever! It’s not important how long you chat, just that you do! Therein lies the benefit.
It was fun when everything was new. Why should it be any different now?
